I was asked on a date by a guy I'm not particularly interested in, but treat me well. I agreed to go, with the assumption that this was a "real" date vs the other times we've gone out. I climb my ass n2 his pickemup n we're off. "This fool betta not take me to a buffet," was the thought I had as we left my house. I quickly dismissed this crazy thought. Why on earth would ne sane man take his date 2 a buffet? Right? WRONG! That's exactly where he took me. Passing the nice dinner and movie spot!
Now, why didn't I let him know that I felt like slapping him? Why didn't I demand that he take me home? Why did I care so much about his feelings? I ask all these questions to myself, but I also ask of him, why the F would u take me there? Am I not worth a nicer place? Can u at least take me to Ryan's or Golden Corral? Why am I settling for mediocrity in my dating life? Am I that desperate for some type of male contact? Sadly, yes. Most of the times. That is the case. Help please?
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Now I'll try to speak from the view of a general male and not as somebody who truly wants to date you lol! In Georgia, I feel like there aren't many places to go on a date, which isn't already so cliched, like dinner and a movie. But after research, I found out that there are a nice amount of upper-scaled and also laid back restaurants that are perfect for a dinner date.
ReplyDeleteNow as far as activities go, down here you're pretty much stuck with bowling, skating or the movies, which is why I'm more of a homebody and would rather cook a nice pasta meal and sit in front of the TV and watch a new movie with my date, preferably a comedy so we can die laughing and have something to talk about for days to come. Now in your situation, if you felt like you didn't want to go, then you shouldn't have, no matter how much you crave the attention. Normally if you're craving the attention, and you don't like the person, or the place their taking you, you just shouldn't go! You're a sweetheart for caring about his feelings, because in his mind, he probably felt like he was more interested in being in your presence, than shelling out big bucks to impress you, but that's just how I interpret it. But in your mind, I'm guessing you felt that the buffet was low-scale and not suitable for a "real" date, which is entirely fine.
Trust me when I tell you, the key to any relationship, platonic or romantic, is COMMUNICATION! If you can't be upright and honest, then you're already on the way to a super-fail relationship lol!
Also, you should never settle for mediocrity in your dating life. Only you know what you want and desire in an ideal mate, and you should settle for nothing less. You're an amazing young lady and you deserve the best life has to offer you, so don't you dare waste your time with the bottom of the barrel when the top of the chain would be dying for a chance with you! (speaking from experience now lol!)
Hope the words offer some sort of reflect or help on the situation
~S. Clark (CJ)~
Thank u much! That is greatly appreciated n helpful!
ReplyDeleteGirl, sometimes you have to keep yourself entertained until someone that is worth your time comes your way. In actually, until you are just content with yourself alone, you will never be completely happy in a relationship with someone else. A relationship is supposed to be two whole individuals, not a whole and a half or any other way.
ReplyDeleteAs far as him taking you to the buffet goes...yea, i would've been mad too. tis all. smooches.
Thanks girl! Ur def right! I think I have these moments, when I get restless because I feel, "Why don't I have nebody? What's wrong with me?" Then I realize, that's not the case. I have come a long way, but I'm not there yet. It's def a process!
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